This article is specifically for you. Essence magazine wrote an article about 8 myths about men and what woman doesn’t like to read about these? This was taken from MSN.com but the comments at the end are my own opinion.
I want to hear what you think about them. I’ll put my comment at the end of each one
1. Men think about sex all day
False. The statistic I frequently hear is that sexual thoughts cross a man’s mind every seven seconds. This couldn’t be further from the truth. According to the Kinsey Institute, 54 percent of men think about sex every day, but 43 percent only consider it a few times a month or a few times a week, while four percent make it the whole month before pondering the subject.
Karen’s thoughts: Well, I don’t know about all day, but I don’t believe 43 % only think of it a few times a month or week. I’ll go with daily.
2. Men aren’t as talkative as women
False. When researchers have tried to compare the number of words used by both men and women in the same situation, the differences were negligible. If anything, studies show men talk a little bit more.
Karen’s thoughts: While I do think women tend to babble more and men are more to the point, I have known some men that won’t shut the hell up.
3. Men don’t like to commit
False. This one I blame on the 80/20 rule. I’ve seen firsthand from my clients that men commit at the same rate as women. The issue comes in with a small percentage of men (I call these the 20 percenters) who habitually enter and leave relationships aka “The Commitment Phobes.”
Karen’s thoughts: I have personally not found this to be true but it could also depend on the age of the man, which I can understand. Women have a biological clock that naturally ticks, men don’t.
4. Men don’t like to be asked out
False. I write about this extensively in my new book, It’s Complicated – But It Doesn’t Have To Be. Everyone appreciates being admired and having someone show enough interest to ask you out is the ultimate showing of flattery. What people don’t want is to be asked out by people they don’t like (or don’t find attractive).
Karen’s thoughts: Totally false. Who doesn’t like to feel they are attracted and desirable? BTW- I asked out Dan!!
5. Men don’t have feelings
False. There is definitely a different socialization that happens in adolescence among boys and girls as it relates to being “touchy/feely” but essentially, feelings come from an area in the brain both women and men have. The amygdala is a part of the brain both men and women have that controls our emotional responses.
Karen’s thoughts: False: I know I have hurt men’s feelings unintentionally. I think different things hurt men and women’s feelings but I do believe men have feelings.
6. Men are intimidated by strong women
False. The word intimidated is the most misused word in dating. Yes, some men (just as some women) are intimidated in select scenarios (like getting set up on a blind date with Grace Jones) but most of the time, like 99% of the time, men are not intimidated (but attracted) to strong women.
Karen’s thoughts: I don’t like the word intimidated because I am not sure it’s that. I do think men like to feel like a “man” and protect and take care of women but I don’t think its intimidation.
7. Foot or hand size correlates with penis size
False. Researchers at University College London say there is no evidence linking a man’s shoe or hand size to the length of his penis. After measuring the vital parts of hundreds of men, they concluded that the theory has no scientific basis. The ability to predict the size of a man’s penis by observing his shoe size is a common misconception says Dr. Jyoyi Shah
Karen’s thoughts: No clue
8. Men don’t gossip
False. The Social Issues Research Centre, a nonprofit think tank, has conducted numerous studies on gossip (and how it affects our lives) have found that 33 percent of men indulge in gossip daily or almost every day — compared with 26 percent of women. Yes, men gossip more than women!
Karen’s thoughts: True – I have worked with enough men to know that men absolutely do gossip as much as women.
So, ladies, I would love to hear what you have to say about these 8 myths.
Men, you can add your 2 cents too, but everyone, please keep it clean!
Thoughts on any or all of these?