Be Kind- you never know whose life you may save

“Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle you know nothing about”


You never, ever know what people are going through behind the happy smiles, success and wealth.


Our society has equated happy to look like beautiful people, big houses, important jobs, grand vacations and opulent, material things. But so often behind these superficial things lie terrible despair.


I think often of my Mom. She had a wonderful marriage, 2 great kids, a home in Maine, Florida and the Cape, 4 cars and whatever she wanted. She didn’t have to work and my Dad had a ton of flexibility in his job that they went wherever they wanted, whenever they wanted.


But my Mom had a gaping hole in her heart that all of the wonderful things in her life couldn’t fill. My Mom always chased for better, more, bigger, as I see now, as a way to try and gap the hole in the dam that was always threatening to crumble.


People who didn’t know her thought she had a wonderful life and figured she must be so happy.


My Mom was a drunk my whole life and died drinking herself to death.


So, the next time you see that pretty woman in the office or Mom’s group who seems to have it all: a nice husband, huge house, Mercedes Benz, huge diamond.. whatever, and you are green with envy and secretly wish something in her life to go wrong… She may be looking at you and thinking what a lucky woman you are and how she wishes she could trade places with you.



“Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle you know nothing about”


Behind the big smiles, kind words, generous gestures there may just be a wounded soul crying out for someone, anyone to notice and take their hand.


I’ll never forget an interview I read on Winona Ryder many years ago. It has stuck with me all this time. She said:


“And I think it was really ironic because, like, everybody else just thought I had everything in the world, you know, I had no reason to be depressed, everything was sort of at its peak, but inside I was completely lost.



“Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle you know nothing about”


I know life is busy and we get caught up on our own problems, challenges, day to day but please try and be kind to others, even those who seem to “have it all” and you want to poke out their eyeballs.


They may be the exact people who need kindness the most.



Despair can look like this


RIP Robin Williams

If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).





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